KITE FLYING… AND MARRIAGE

Once there was a marriage ceremony. It was lavishly done.  There were dozen couples who acted as principal sponsors and three priests to officiate.  Ringing of the bells was continuous.  This is called in the local dialect as “repeke”

The church was filed and naturally the reception which followed after the marriage ceremonies was attended by so many.  The building was filled so many tables and chairs are even put outside.

Before serving dinner some of the principal sponsors were asked to talked on their words of wisdom to the newly wed couple.  One speaker said during the Japanese occupation (1941-1945), he lived in La Opinion, Nabua, Camarines Sur, the place of the bride.  He learned as a boy how to fly kites.

He said that flying a kite (boradol in Bikol), one has to learn “toros” (loosen of the string) and “kawikaw” (holding back of the string).  To make the marriage successful, the bride should know when to loosen her husband “toros” or holding back her husband “kawikaw”.  In other words, the wife shall not be not possessive or too loose of her husband.  She shall not be too possessive nor too lose.

If the wife knows how to “toros” and “kawikaw” the kite will fly … so is a married life.